About 2 months ago I picked up everything and left my childhood home. I resigned from my job as a Tax Associate, said goodbye to friends and family, and left behind everything I was familiar with. I needed and wanted to forge a new path in my life. So, from the burbs of Chicago, I headed West, to Portland.
I have been faced with obstacles, but I have also been given great opportunities. The physical journey came with ups and downs. It came with stress that I never could have anticipated. And then came the emotional roller coaster that I am still riding. Things are coming together, and I am both proud and amazed at what I have accomplished this Summer.
Through this experience l have been taught many lessons and I have gained an understanding and appreciation for life. It’s precious, it’s fleeting, so we have to take control of the reigns. Here are seven things, I learned from my move across the country.
If You Want Something Bad Enough, Make It Happen
It wasn’t like I just up and left out of the blue. I had been planning and saving to move for over a year. I wanted this and I made it happen.
For two consecutive New Years I made it a goal to move. I researched Austin, Texas at first. I even visited with my best friend who was going to move with me, but eh, Austin wasn’t for me. I then had my heart set on Portland. For many reasons. For one, it is beautiful. You have the coast and mountains within an hour and a half drive. More outdoor adventures than you can dream of. The small city vibe. And let’s not forget the weather. I am done with the bitter frozen tundra that is Chicago.
So I researched like crazy, saved a ton, and started applying to jobs. I was having no luck and I began to worry that because of my out of state address, I would never receive the time of day. And in the back of my head I knew I would be able to make it work if I just moved, without a job. But this scared the crap out of me.
But in the end this is what I did. I was sick of waiting around. Months were going by and if I didn’t make it happen, it might never have.
Family Is Everything
I miss them. I miss my siblings and I miss my parents. Knowing that I can’t just walk downstairs and say hello hurts.
I have always known that I have rockstar parents, but through the process of moving across the country I appreciate them now more than ever. They have been supportive every step of the way, always lending a helping hand, and I have been able to turn to them for advise and guidance during tough times. It is soothing to know they are there when I need them.
It Ain’t All Unicorns and Rainbows
Get ready for some bumps in the road. Literally and figuratively. My drive alone caused so much stress and anxiety. Crashing my bike into a parking garage was not the plan and because of this I was down before I even got started.
There is a lot that goes into a move as well. Once you get past finding a place to live, packing up your life, and safely driving to your destination, the real fun begins. And it takes patience and time to get through it all. There is changing addresses, getting a new driver’s license, new license plates, setting up a new bank account, the process of applying, interviewing, and starting a new job. And I can go on, but you get the picture. And doing this alone just makes it harder.
So, it is not all glamorous, but it’s worth it to live in your dream city.
Life Is About Experiences
Before Costa Rica I was doing the same thing every single week. And I was bored and unhappy living that way. Costa Rica ultimately gave me the courage to move because I saw how things would work out if I just gave it a chance.
I now see the importance of new experiences. When we are learning is when we are growing and as humans that is what keeps us alive.
Get Comfortable With The Uncomfortable
New situations brings discomfort. For the most part we want to stay in a comfortable place because that limits our vulnerability. And being vulnerable is scary. But it can also be rewarding.
I’ve become real cozy with being uncomfortable. With interviews, new jobs, and new social settings I am almost always in an unfamiliar place, but I have learned to embrace everything that has come my way.
Put Yourself Out There
When your in a new place with new people, you just have to put yourself out there.
Before I even arrived in Portland I reached out to a local yoga studio to join in on their Karma Yogi program. Once a week I help tidy the place up before and after class in exchange for taking that class free of charge and having five additional classes a month free to use. I have been able to connect with some pretty awesome people through here.
And before I took on two jobs, I was volunteering and going to meet-ups every chance I could. It is a great way to get involved, network, and get to know the city.
Maintaining a positive outlook through a hard day, when I miss home, or when I am worrying about finances is so very important. Have faith, work hard, and if that fails…yoga.
Have you had any big moves or changes in your life recently?